we all need to be alone


My only little guy, Matthew, just spent the day at a local waterpark with his favorite buddy.  A day full of sun, Cheetos, Coke, water slides, and diving boards. A great day just to be a 9-year-old kid on a beautiful Michigan summer day.

After his afternoon of little boy bliss, Matt walks in, asks for yet another snack and wants to watch his favorite show, Mythbusters.  As he’s heading downstairs he stops and says to me, “Mom, I love having some alone time.”  Ah, that’s my boy.  He speaks my soul language.  As an introvert, I need time alone in my day or I cannot function to my fullest capacity.  It has taken me years to really accept this and to carve out the time.

As mothers, alone time should be listed in the mothering manual as a requirement.  Time to let your mind be still for a bit.  Time to breathe without the demands of laundry and dishes.  Time to just be.

It is in this time of quiet that gratitude and peace are found.  It’s so easy to miss the tiny blessings of this season if you can’t slow down for a few moments to cherish them.

Women need solitude in order to find again the true essence of  themselves.  -Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Time alone is very hard to carve out in these mothering years- especially with very little ones where the demands are great and quiet time is at a minimum.  Please hear me here though- don’t deny yourself silence and a little space.

I encourage you to find some space to be alone, even if only for a few moments.  Find a place to quiet your soul for a bit and just breathe.  It’s one gift your heart needs right now.  Be generous and kind.  To yourself.  Your kids and husband need that from you more than clean laundry.

What is one thing you will do to find a few moments of solitude today?

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18 Replies to “we all need to be alone”

  1. Yet another great post mom! I agree, we all need alone time. That’s why I’m always up so late at night, because I get to be alooooone 😉

  2. I like this. In our high-tech age of instant and constant input, most of us reallyy get very little alone time. I think of the scripture that says “Be still, and know that I am God”
    Enjoyed your post today, thank you!

  3. Thanks so much for stopping by! Your kind words are much appreciated 🙂

  4. Good post. Being alone with God helps us to find stillness. I am alone with God in the car.

  5. Thanks for stopping by Donna. The car is great for me too-when I am alone 🙂 Have a lovely Sunday!

  6. Love the AML quote! And I totally agree. Thanks for sharing this restful post & for visiting me at Doorkeeper. Blessings!

    1. I see we share the same love of quotes 🙂 Thanks for visiting! Grace and peace.

  7. My life is loud. With an adult child, a teen and preteen at home, I seldom get any alone time. I like my time in the car, where I worship the Lord freely with whatever flows from my heart. And I like to stay up late, to connect with God, read encouraging posts and just listen to the stillness. I am thankful you linked up with The Weekend Brew. I just started homeschooling this last year, and I work full time, so I am always looking to gleam from seasoned homeschoolers. I am following you along in your journey! Blessings!

  8. Thanks so much for visiting, Barbie- I truly appreciate it. I love the inspiration on your site! I have some homeschooling posts in the works. It’s definitely a journey that is constantly changing! Grace and peace to you 🙂

  9. I used to be a serious morning person, but health and family issues have changed that in the last few years. I’ve been really trying to get up early again so that I can have that quiet alone time in the early morning hours. My days go so much more smoothly when I make that happen!

  10. Jen- thanks for stopping by. I have such a hard time getting up early too! I know it’s so much better for me but sometimes life feels like it has different plans. I am with you on this! Many blessings 🙂

    1. Thanks for visiting again, Sarah. Congrats on your little one- I pray you got your alone time 🙂 I linked up a post that hopefully, will encourage this week.

  11. You are speaking so much truth that my heart needs!!! I feel so guilty for the time I take for myself, if I do… how do you keep reminding yourself of these things? I hope you have someone who encourages you as much as reading a few of your blog posts has encouraged me today 🙂

    1. Thanks, Carissa for such sweet words. I just know when I’m getting uptight and frustrated that it’s time for me to take a time out myself. When I’m short with the kids and cranky no one wins. Even if I have to shut myself in the bathroom for quiet I do! I read a book by Jill Savage called Real Moms… Real Jesus and she pointed out how Jesus was always surrounded by large crowds who always wanted to touch him (sounds like a day as a mom too). He always made it a point to get away to rest and pray. We need that too!! I know some days it seems impossible, trust me! Yet it’s so crucial to our well-being! Thanks for hanging out a bit today – stop by anytime 🙂

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