It was a complete meltdown. I had asked one simple question. Her little 5-year-old body flung onto the floor. I was instantly irritated as my voice kept rising higher while trying to remain calm. My first instinct was, are you kidding me?! My second instinct was that I needed to get this kid to bed. Quickly, my question turned into a demand.
After 3 kids, countless tantrums (from the kids and myself), and 13 years of motherhood, why do I still let these meltdowns get to me?
It’s an ugly word.
I expect too much from my kids. I ignore the cues. I knew that my little girl had been outside swimming, pretending, eating, and laughing all day long with the neighbor kids. I knew that she was only a few days off of an ear infection and sore throat. I knew she had not been sleeping well. I knew she was exhausted.
Under all these circumstances, I still expected her to cooperate. Without argument. Once I realized what I was doing I backed off my demand. We cuddled. She stopped crying and a compromise was reached. We began again.
I’m not a perfect mom. I don’t have perfect kids. We get by with grace and forgiveness and lessons learned.
Don’t be too hard on your kids.
Pay attention to their cues.
What can you do today to extend grace to your kids?