I am the decisive element


I have long had this quote in my homeschool planning binder.  It always convicts me to never give up trying to be a better mom, a better wife, a better friend, a better person no matter how many times I fall flat on my face.  May you carry these words with you this week:

“I have come to the frightening conclusion that I am the decisive element.

It is my personal approach that creates the climate. It is my daily mood that makes the weather.

I possess tremendous power to make life miserable or joyous.

I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration, I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal.

In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis is escalated or de-escalated, and a person is humanized or de-humanized.

If we treat people as they are, we make them worse. If we treat people as they ought to be, we help them become what they are capable of becoming.

― Haim G. Ginott, Teacher and Child: A Book for Parents and Teachers

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16 Replies to “I am the decisive element”

  1. What a fabulous quote and great reminder. So convicting and I needed that today – I hope to inspire, heal, and make life joyous for those around me.

  2. Thanks for stopping by, Deanna. I need to remind myself of this daily 🙂 Grace and peace!

  3. That is a fabulous quote. I’m going to copy it, not for my notebook but to put on my bulletin board. Thank you for sharing!

    betty jo

    1. Thanks for stopping by, Betty Jo! I printed it out and keep it in the front clear pocket of my planner so I’m sure not to miss it! I definitely need to remind myself of it every day. So glad you liked it 🙂

    1. It is always a good reminder- some days more than others 🙂

  4. Nannette and the Sweetheart says:

    Love! Love! Love! Thank you for sharing! I shall try to live up to it 🙂

    1. Thank you so much, Nannette! You’re so sweet 🙂 Blessings!

  5. Ooh, that’s a great quote. Thanks so much for sharing it. What a perspective to remember.

  6. I really need to memorize it and chant it throughout my day 🙂 Thanks for visiting! Blessings to you.

  7. I’m putting this quote on my wall! Thanks for sharing. We will be starting to homeschool next year and I’m more than a little nervous about it! I will be coming back often to gain needed insight!
    Thanks again.

    1. Thanks for visiting, Emily and Congratulations on your new homeschooling adventure!! I was so nervous when we started too but it will all work out 🙂 I am working on some homeschooling posts as we head closer to the school year as I’ve started planning our next school year with an 8th, 4th, and Kindergartner (there won’t be a dull moment around here) so stay tuned- hopefully you can find some helpful and encouraging nuggets here 🙂 Always feel free to contact me if you have questions- I’ll be happy to assist if I can!

  8. Love this quote! Never heard it before but it does show the ability we have to build someone up or tear them down, and the ability to affect their day (and our own) in a negative or a positive way.

    We can always continue to strive to make a difference, and pick ourselves up on days when we feel we’ve failed and try again! 😉

    Thanks for linking up to the “Making Your Home Sing Monday” linky party! 🙂

  9. I pick myself up on many days! Thanks for the visit, Nan. I love linking up to Mom’s the Word- it’s a great community!

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