Lonely {Five Minute Friday}

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Out of your loneliness I am creating community for others. ~God

God whispered those words on my heart about a month ago and they will forever be embedded in my mind.

Those 10 simple words are God inviting me to live my purpose here, in this space.

Early motherhood was very challenging for me.  I had a very anxious and uncomfortable baby that demanded much of my emotional and physical energy.  I felt so alone.

Throw 2 more kids and homeschooling into the picture and the loneliness hit with full force.  I felt shut off even more from the “real” world.  My world now revolves around my school days and my kids (which I absolutely love).  It leaves little time for relationships that aren’t real and life-giving.

I need friends who are honest, who admit their lives are messy and offer grace if my life or beliefs don’t align with theirs completely.

A sign of a true friend is that they aren’t afraid to let me see their messy house – and they don’t apologize for it.  On the flip side, I don’t feel like I have to clean my house when they are coming over either (I don’t think I’ll ever completely break this habit though- I still frantically at least clean my kitchen no matter who is coming!).

There is a deep longing inside of each of us for others to just get us.  So completely know us. Friends to love us for who we are.  Friends who aren’t afraid to call us out when they see us veering off the path.

I want this space to be a an encouragement for all.  I want to be intentional and build a community- not just followers.  Like a conversation among friends.

I want a community of grace.

I won’t be able to take all your loneliness away but I hope that I can offer you encouragement to continue on the path set before you.  Yet, challenge you to always keep growing.  God teaches and speaks through the loneliness.

Our challenges may be different and our circumstances most certainly are.

I know, even though loneliness threatens to envelop me, I am not alone.

Neither are you.

We are in this together.

Grace and peace, my friends.

Joining with the beautiful, encouraging, grace-filled community of Five Minute Friday.

*ok, I admit- I cheated a little with the time limit.  I couldn’t help myself today <smile>.

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29 Replies to “Lonely {Five Minute Friday}”

  1. Beautiful post. I am in the same boat, seeking friends who aren’t afraid to be real. Honest. Our lives are messy, especially when children are involved. My living room is rarely clean. My bed is never made. I have four loads of laundry in a basket, which is flowing over. I need friends in my life who are understanding and just as messy as me. I think we all need that. And God is always with us, even when we feel like we are alone. I try to remind myself of that every day.

    1. Yes! It’s so easy to feel alone. It’s much harder to reach out and connect. Thanks for visiting-I appreciate it 🙂 Many blessings to you today!

    1. Thank you for your kinds words, Emily. You are always welcome – I will always think of Puddy when you visit- in a good way!! 🙂

  2. (I had already commented, but I guess it didn’t go through. Stupid phone.)

    Beautiful post. I think we all need friends who understand that life is messy, especially when children are involved. You can pretend all you want that you have you life together, but if you fall apart when you are alone because you have no friends…is it worth it? My living room is rarely clean, there are always toys scattered around. Our bed is never made. I have a basket in our bedroom overflowing with four–or five–loads of unfolded laundry, and I’m not going to tell you how long they have been there. We need friends in our lives who are unashamed to show us their messiness and who won’t judge us for our own.

    And God is so good to remind us that we are never alone, even when we feel like it. He’s so awesome like that.

    Hopping over from FMF!

    1. That’s ok- I’ll just reply twice 🙂 I love “we need friends in our lives who are unashamed to show us their messiness and won’t judge us for our own.”- well said!

  3. Yes, yes, yes! I want that, too, for others to know they don’t need to clean for me, to admit the messy, all of it! I about cried the other day when the friend I never clean for told me that her husband told her they should clean before I came over, and she did. Thank you for your transparency… you allowed me to breathe a little here 🙂

  4. Encouragement, yes! That is what we can do to help each other with the loneliness.
    I’m an oddball in most of my communities of friends, feeling I don’t really fit in anywhere, but their love and encouragement and willing to bestow grace gives me a safe place to be me.
    A lovely post today, Cheri. Thank you!

    1. Oddball- that’s how I feel a lot too. I’ve always said I feel like an odd duck in the land of odd ducks sometimes. Thanks for your kind comment, Linda – I appreciate your visits 🙂

  5. I love this post! Thank you so much for sharing! I feel the same way. I’m a stay at home/homeschool mom to 3 boys and I totally understand where you’re coming from! I love your quote from God at the beginning. I’m going to remind myself of that as I blog.
    Ashley 🙂

    1. Thanks for visiting, Ashley. We are all in this together, aren’t we? We won’t be so lonely when we encourage each other and show grace! Many blessings to you and your little guys 🙂

  6. I can relate with those feelings of isolation and loneliness from homeschooling. I’m eternally grateful for my community God had built for me over the last several years. I’m excited for our new friendship and finding your beautiful space here!

  7. Great post, Cheri – I always feel rather honored when someone lets me in their ‘busy’ house – to me, it feels as if they are letting me glimpse their real self and not just the self they show ‘company’.

    I really like your comment about being intentional and creating a community not just followers. I can tell by your blog and comments that I would be honored to call you ‘friend’. ;

    Have a good week!

    1. Thanks for the sweet reply, Karen- I appreciate it 🙂 I agree on the busy house thing. I think it’s more comfortable and real. You are welcome here anytime, friend!

  8. Cheri, you came by today which led me to your post way up there, but I wandered down here because God knew I needed this post … this day! I am 65 and in a whole different place in life than you, yet I still need that honesty, grace-giving friend in my life as well. Thank you for sharing and loving and caring about us through your own experience. You have encouraged me today.
    Caring through Christ, ~ linda

    1. I am so glad it encouraged you! Your very kind and thoughtful words have encouraged me as well- thank you. Many, many blessings to you!

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